Beyond Our Control


One of the realities of caregiving – one of many – is that we are not in control. Each day seems to bring uncertainties. Our plans and expectations can be so easily upset. Our priorities can quickly change.

Instead of struggling…stop! Trust! God is in control. Every situation. Every detail…is in his strong and steady hands. Not yours or mine! Be assured…and re- assured. Trust! It’s your wisest option. Perhaps your only option. Expect a new beginning. Our doubts and uncertainties are meant to open the door to God’s intervention.

When the heart asks “why”, our Tender Shepherd says “Follow. I have your best at heart.” When the road ahead seems rough and unsure, rest. He will make the way clear.

“I need you, Lord”, is not a sign of weakness or despair. It is the plea of an open, trusting, expecting heart.

Photos by Ken Jones. Copyright 2016

The “Right” Way


There may be times in your caring for another when you are unsure of the course you should take. You know the options, but which one is right for this situation? Or, perhaps, no clear action comes to mind, but something has to be done.

“If any of you does not know how to meet any particular problem he [or she] has only to ask God – who gives generously to all men [and women] without making them feel foolish or guilty – and he [or she] may be quite sure that the necessary wisdom will be given.” (James 1:5 from The New Testament in Modern English)

“Ask God”…who cares deeply for you and the one in your care.

Open your heart in a moment of quiet, confident expectation, for He “gives generously”. Be assured that asking for wisdom is not a sign of weakness or inadequacy. Our all-wise Father gives “without making [you] feel foolish or guilty”.

Photo courtesy of Alek Zaslawski (, copyright 2016

Strength from Weakness


Those of us who care for another are often encouraged to “be strong”. And we try. Day after demanding day we tell ourselves “that’s what’s expected. Somebody has to be strong.”And so we stiffen our upper lip…prepared to meet whatever this day demands.

The truth is that only broken bread feeds the hungry. It is only out of our brokenness that we can draw fully and deeply on the sustaining power of our Ever-Strong Lord.

Frustrated by some unidentified weakness, the Apostle Paul prayed again and again for it to be removed. He saw it as a hindrance. A liability. But our Lord had a totally different perspective. Hear his strengthening words to Paul:

“My grace is enough; it’s all you need. My strength comes into its own in your weakness.”

(2 Corinthians 12:6 THE MESSAGE) Another translator puts the same verse this way: “my weaknesses mean a deeper experience of the power of Christ.”

Draw today on the strength that comes as our Lord’s free gift.

Photo courtesy of Alek Zaslawski (, copyright 2016